A big problem that we often see out in the field is that we humans have a tendency to make a lot of assumptions.
Assumptions stem in our imagination and our willingness to accept something as true without question or proof.
This can be problematic for a variety of reasons. In work teams they can primarily grow a feeling of unfairness, undermine mutual trust and turn fantasy into unnecessary conflict.
Something that you accept as true without question or proof.
Also described as second-order realities by psychologists
Something that is known to have happened or to exist.
Also described as first-order reality by psychologists
“The worst distance between two people is misunderstanding.”
Why don’t we always refer to tangible facts and experiences rather than building cathedrals of assumptions? Why is this happening in so many teams across the globe? Because we need to make sense of what we experience. And we easily omit and distort information when our embedded sense-making process (Kourilsky, 2014) is triggered. That process can be broken down into three main stages:
Mixing these 3 levels as we speak can lead us directly into one (or several) of the 5 following communication traps:
So, how can we avoid falling into these communication traps and prevent any unnecessary tension in the team?
By asking better questions. To be more precise, by asking clarification questions that help everyone get back to the original facts and experiences hidden behind assumptions, judgements, rules and so on.
Redesigned by Stefano Mastrogiacomo, the Fact Finder helps avoid escalations by suggesting a set of neutral questions that help inquire and understand the first-order realities (facts) hidden behind unproductive second-order statements (assumptions). This gives a chance to others to reformulate their thinking more accurately and be understood.
As a team member you can use the Fact Finder to:
Gain Better Information & Decision Making
Clarify what is said, what others are saying and also what you are saying.
Make exchanges shorter and more efficient.
Mastery of the Fact Finder sends positive signals in terms of psychological safety it helps speakers demonstrate genuine interest to the listeners, apply professional inquiry techniques to improve understanding and solve problems together.
How to Apply the tool
The Fact Finder suggests communication trap examples (in black) and clarification questions (in blue). When asked, the blue questions propel the conversation from the trap “to the north” of first-order reality (observable facts and experiences). Once the conversion is back to the north, there may still be a problem: we can also report incomplete facts or experiences. The Fact Finder suggests clarification questions for that case too (in blue at the top).
The 4 steps to use the Fact Finder:
The clarification questions are neutral. They do not convey any form of judgment and they don’t trigger closed binary responses (yes/no).
A good way to get to grips with the tool is to concentrate on one communication trap every day. One to two weeks of practice will be enough to memorize the tool and ask questions like a pro!
Origins of The Fact Finder
The Fact Finder has its roots in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), a therapeutic communication approach developed by John Grinder and Richard Bandler in the 70s. Grinder and Bandler developed a powerful questioning framework they coined the "meta-model".
Implementing the meta-model revealed to be challenging and that led the coach Alain Cayrol to develop a more applicable version: the Fact Finder was born. Subsequently, the tool has been completed and developed by Françoise Kourilsky, the French psychologist that inspired the new version presented in the book.
* This article is an adapted excerpt of Stefano Mastrogiocomo's upcoming book, High-Impact Tools for Teams.
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